Phill,
We can all sleep peacefully now you have identified the part. It's odd that I've not come across one in my travels. Thanks for the offer of one though I will politely decline. I recently treated the connection between relay and winch to some nice high capacity tinned wire and all it working nicely. As they say, "if it ain't broke...".
In case anyone is curious, I used 50A Anderson connectors so I can, if desired, easily remove the winch. I measured current draw while winching up the keel at 48 amps. The other thing I noticed is that when I raised the keel under battery power alone, then connected a battery charger immediately afterwards, it didn't take long at all for the battery charge current to fade away to zero. The winch motor is not really a battery killer.
Cheers!