Bad luck Dirk. I agree with Martin, I wouldn't manoeuver your boat in the marina with the keel up. At least get a tow out of the marina. I got a tow when my keel was up as it was either fully up or fully down after the hose failed!
I also had a problem with my ram seals at the start of the season and had to remove the ram and replace the seals. I couldn't lower the keel as the hydraulic pipe had a hole in it and the oil had leaked out so I had to lower the boat onto the ground, remove the pin from the coachroof when the pressure came off, then slowly lift the boat until the keel bolt was exposed.
I can't understand why your keel won't go down under gravity with the weight of the keel. I would have thought it would have overcome any resistance from jammed seals. Maybe with the boat out of the water, the keel will lower without the support of the water helping to hold up the keel.
If it doesn't, you could try the following: with the keel on the ground, disconnect the hydraulic hoses in the keel box. I think as you lift the boat the ram will then extend as the oil will be pushed out of the hose.
I would replace all the oil as it will be old. I would also replace both the hydraulic hoses and the breather pipe. I can send you some instructions on this if you like, or check the Parker newsletter that's just been sent out as I wrote an article on it all.
Good luck and keep us informed.
Mike